29 November 2011

The Growth... All Good Things

Today is my birthday! I'm 32 years old. Also this is my last blog on baby daddy diaries. I started this blog back in October 2007. I started blogging just like I start most things in my life, because of a girl. I was dating a girl who had starting to blog and I got interested. She quit long long ago (or at least I think she did, we don't talk anymore) but I kept at it. Before I knew it here we are. I'm still suprised I stuck with it as long as this. I tend to lose interest in stuff quickly.

I never really considered myself a blogger but blogging has been extremely good to me. It provided me a place to vent and tell amusing stories about my life. It literally chronicled my life and growth for the last 4 years. I've made friends, fell in love and received great advice all from this little slice of cyberspace. I'm truly grateful for my time here and the connections I've made. I never really promoted this blog yet I still managed to get around 300+ people subscribing via RSS and 170+ google friends. I didn't even have that many people on my personal facebook page lol. I have no idea how many of you found my blog but I'm happy you did and you liked it enough to continue reading.

So why stop? mostly because I've lost my desire to blog, more so my desire to share. I have lots to blog about but I don't feel like sharing anymore. The idea of posting my life to the internet isn't near as appealing as it used to be. Maybe I'll just write a journal or something. I'm ready to close this chapter of my life and see whats next. Also my domain subscription is up lol

Lastly THANK YOU all for reading and all of your kind words of encouragement. I hope you enjoyed reading and were able to gain something from my posts. Even if it was just a laugh.

You can catch me on the twitter,yes THE twitter @davevanb

my other blog www.cookinwithdave.com

or you can email me at dave@cookinwithdave.com

17 November 2011

Dating Life

I had lunch with Sha Boogie last week and all she wanted to talk about was my dating like lol. Apparently I don't talk about it enough and she felt left out.

here's the thing about my dating life, its relatively boring and repetitive. See I was using my female friends as a distraction until they all got scooped up in Choosing Season. So then I had to actually go out on real dates. At first I completely hated them. I used to love first dates and all the sudden I wasn't looking forward to them. They were boring and I wasn't engaged at all.

After a while I started enjoying dating again but I was still just going through the motions. I just wasn't excited about any of the women I was meeting. Like I knew within the first couple days of knowing them that it wasn't going anywhere. That old saying "When a man knows he knows" is true. When I meet a girl I really like I'm all over it, there is no doubt about what I want. I don't have to force myself to have conversations or talk myself into liking her because she is a good woman. Lately I have been doing a lot of talking myself into women.

My whole dating life is just distractions, something to do when I'm bored. It gets me out the house and keeps my phone filled with lewd pics. Women come and go and I don't even care. Sometimes I wait to see just how long I can BS around with a girl before she realizes I'm not interested and moves on. You know the worst part? I can actually see myself doing this for a while, its kind of a comfort zone for me. It allows me the free time to raise LMS and still have female company when I want it. I don't have loads of free time anyway so it works. I don't have anyone I'm accountable to. I get to live life fairly selfishly and not think about "Us" or keeping another person happy. With Christmas coming up I don't have to buy anything for anyone I mean this could be considered an awesome situation. So for right now I'm chilling, no marriage talk. I'm enjoying the moment.

In other news I realized I hate the whole 21 questions thing that happens when you meet people. Or maybe I just hate when this one girl asks me questions. I tend to answer them with wild silly answers because its funny to me then I realize that she is sizing me up based on the questions. I'd much rather you get to know me by being around me than judging what kind of music I listen to. I actually don't like talking about myself, You kind just have to live a little life with me and either you get it or you don't.

I don't know if I'm growing or regressing.....

07 November 2011

School House Adventures

Its been a minute and honestly the though of quiting blogging crossed my mind a couple times. i don't have the same feeling towards it like I used to. I'm still around though. Let me share a couple parenting stories....

1. I get a call from aftercare that LMS stole 2 kids Halloween candy. I remember coming home with some candy but she said a little girl gave it to her. so now she stole AND lied. When I went to pick her up I explained how she was punished and I made her give the kids some candy from her Halloween haul. Then I threw out the rest (ok I saved the good stuff for me but she didn't get anymore). She was sad for like 15minutes then she went about life. My daughter is so much like me its scary, we both adapt to things crazy fast. Its hard to punish her because she isn't attached to anything.

2. I get a call from her teacher, apparently she pushed some kid into a wall. This is a kid she has been having problems with all year from what I gather the little boy has bigger problems than LMS so Ive just been telling her to ignore him. Well this day there were in line next to each other and I guess she didn't want him there so she pushed him. I'm not sure if I was mad or not, before I could decide a punishment....

3. In the same phone conversation the teacher mentioned that LMS was threatening another little girl in her class. telling the child that she was going to beat her up and then after her dad came to class to talk to the teacher about it LMS tells the little girl that she will get her AND her dad. And she will follow her to 3rd grade. The teacher wants to meet with me, LMS, the little girl and her parents. I agree and start thinking. I've never known LMS to threaten anyone, in general she is a happy kid. She's hit kids but that's just what happens on the playground. It just seemed out of character for her. So when I pick her up I ask her what happened. Ok actually I grill her on both the little girl and pushing the little boy. She confesses to pushing the boy but is fairly adamant that she didn't threaten the girl. Adamant to the point she starts crying and saying the little girl is lying. I believe her and decide to wait till after the conference when I can hear the full story.

Next morning we are at the conference and the little girl is talking, only she isn't mentioning anything about threats. She is talking about LMS stealing pencils and telling her to shut up (LMS is a smiling gangsta). In general its normal kids stuff. Then the dad interjects, he asks LMS whole name and says she is not the right girl. Apparently some other girl in another class was making threats and LMS got blamed. Just one of those things that happens when your acting up in class, EVERYTHING gets blamed on you. The counselor apologized, I spoke to the teacher we left.

I tell LMS that I'm proud she told the truth and stuck with it. Sometimes you just know your kids and what they are capable of. LMS might steal pencils and candy but she doesn't look for drama and confrontation. She just makes bad choices in the heat of the moment. Just one of the many things we work on.

Nobody said this was going to be easy....

24 October 2011

Convos With LMS

LMS: Daddy is Ask a bad word?

Me: Huh?

LMS: Like if I say "Can I ask you a question" is that a bad word?

Me *thinking REAL hard*

Me: OOOHHH, no baby ASS is a bad word Not ASK...

My poor baby is getting confused by you bammas not enunciating your words....