My lil cousins have nicknamed me the dream killer. Basically anything they come to me with an idea they say I shoot it down. Well not only shoot it down but crush it, burn it and use the ashes as flavor for my grill... lol I simply tell them the truth. I keep it real, they are like my lil bothers and I want the best for them. So when they tell me an idea I simply tell them EVERYTHING they need to consider. I figure if I give you all the facts and your still interested in it then go for it. It's not my fault they lose interest after I talk to them.
This brings me to my latest call. My cousin calls me and says he is about to take out a student loan to go to Washington Art Institute. Now he already dropped out of a University without consulting me. I would have talked him into staying and at least finishing the semester, this fool just stopped going to class. He already paid for the class and just stopped going, so then he was out the school credits and his money. I cursed his ass out for that one. So anyway he decides to get my opinion on this new school. In talking to him I discover that he wants to be a Sound bard engineer and the average salary is 40k. In order to finish the degree he will need about 80k in student loans. Now that doesn't really add up to me so I tell him as such. I say if you really want that career then know that you will be paying back a loan for a LONG time and you better love your job to make it worth it. To me you can make 40k at a security job without a degree, SO if your going to make that AND be in debt you better love what your doing. Plus i'm not for going to trade schools for degrees a bachelors should come from somewhere with University in the name. He says this is a good school and he will be learning what he wants to learn in a hands on environment. I try to be supportive but in the end he still says I'm crushing another dream and I'm being too real with him about the situation. He wants me to sugar coat life and that's not what I'm about. I love the dude and I feel responsible for showing him what adulthood is about. I just don't want him making a mistake he will be paying for a long time. It's hard to tell the truth and not crush his dream.