Have you ever been on an exit interview? you know when you leave a job and they interview you to see what went wrong and how they can improve the company?
Wouldn't that be cool to have exit interviews with people we date? Like after it was over you can sit down and calmly discuss why it wasn't working strictly for the purpose of growing? Most relationships end in an argument or with 1 party going missing. You usually don't get a chance to really discuss what went wrong. I got to thinking about this because a couple folks I know are getting out of relationships and one of my past ones hit me back up. I'll use her as an example.
Bridesmaid (that link also includes a pic of me in a tux... you know you wanna see it.. lol) hit me up on thanksgiving day asking if she could come past... I didn't answer the phone because I'm pretty much done with her. I was raised on Biggie, I don't chase them I replace them.. lol. Her calling did get me thinking about how we could have worked if she wasn't so flaky. For my new readers and those that forgot Bridesmaid was a chick I met at my god-sisters wedding earlier in the year. We dated over the summer and kinda fell off because she is a lil too flaky. By flaky I mean we would make plans and it would go something like this:
Her: ok I'm about to leave, I'll be there in 15min
*1.5 hours later*
Me: You ok?
Her: yeah I'm still in the house, something came up, I'ma leave in a few
Her: I'm leaving now.
And so on. This became her habit. Meaning I knew she was going to do it before it even happened. Now at first I just figured she was dating another dude and was creeping with me. Then I got to talking to my god-sister about it and it turns out she does the exact same thing when they go out. So it's just how she is, nothing personal against me. That's cool but I'm not going to deal with it. So I got M.I.A and just went about my life.
Then she calls me up. I keep thinking if she can not be flaky we could be cool. It's not like I don't like her, I just can't deal with the BS. See that's something I would say in an exit interview. Maybe it could help her in a future relationship. Maybe she can tell me some stuff I need to improve. I think it can be a productive thing, provided you can keep you feelings out of it.