13 January 2009

Part Time Lover

So I've been thinking about how i could function in an actual relationship. My usual day involves going to work, pickup my daughter, cooking dinner, giving her a bath then dropping her off to her mom. So where exactly does dating fit in there? I usually date on the 4 days a month I don't have my daughter. this creates a problem in a couple ways. 1. I place a high value on my non working non daddy time. So I don't just hang out with anyone, because I can't be wasting it. 2. I have to divide that time between dating and my own personal time.

So that got me to thinking about how much time I could devote to a relationship. Unless we are doing something with my daughter or the girl is spending the night they wouldn't see me much. Maybe that's a good thing though. I get bored easily so maybe not seeing someone 4 times a week will keep me interested. I don't know, come to think about it I have no idea how relationships work. Being single is oh so easy... lol Why complicate life? yep that's it I'm staying single. Please ignore any wife talk I may have mention on this blog before. Thanks!

15 comments:

Opinionated Diva said...

lol...i don't believe you.

you probably just need to find you a single mom...you'll both understand not having as much time for each other right away.

The Jaded NYer said...

Oh no, it's spreading...lol

RealHustla said...

You are not going to be remaining single!

First off, you're right. Just don't give your free precious time to just anyone.

Next, explain your situation to the woman who seems worthy and she will figure something out, LOL. For example, maybe ya'll can do weekday lunch dates.

Also, maybe you should get into your next relashionship with the goal to eventually bring your two girls together. Set some milestones, and then when that day comes just tell your daughter ya'll are meeting with a friend.

Explain to homegirl that no groping and kissing is allowed. See, baby steps.

RealHustla said...

You are not going to be remaining single!

First off, you're right. Just don't give your free precious time to just anyone.

Next, explain your situation to the woman who seems worthy and she will figure something out, LOL. For example, maybe ya'll can do weekday lunch dates.

Also, maybe you should get into your next relashionship with the goal to eventually bring your two girls together. Set some milestones, and then when that day comes just tell your daughter ya'll are meeting with a friend.

Explain to homegirl that no groping and kissing is allowed. See, baby steps.

Ieisha said...

Staying single my ass!

Till your coworker shows up with the bomb ass lunch that his wife and you want the same made for you.

Or when you want someone else to do the cooking or laundry for a change.

But hey, I took a hiatus and look at me. Got back with Buddha's dad...go figure, huh?

Watch from the sidelines for a lil bit...recharge your batteries.

But no permanent retirements!!!

kayellejaye said...

I know Baby Mamma ain't at home saying she gone be single forever. Man, you better get.it.together.

Sha Boogie said...

LMAO!!

While I'm reading it I'm thinking 'how the heck does he expect to get married' -- until I got to the very end.. you my blogger friend are a MESS!

Hopelessly.Optimistic said...

BOOOO to that post. I hope you arent telling the truth cuz I cant wait to read about the woman that is lucky enought to land you.


CONTAGIOUS

Caspar608 said...

you have one.
I have three.
I feel the way you do only to the THIRD power.
The oldest is a teenage boy and a pain in the ass.
The middle is a preteen boy and a pain in the ass.
My daughter is a Princess and the reason I breathe...
soooo...its difficult to think about spending time with anyone who could turn out to be a loser asking me if he can borrow ten dollars until next Thursday.

I am not the type of mother to put a man before my children. Being a parent involves a lot of sacrifice...I realize the importance of "me" time; it is a rarity to see me out in a club, drink in hand shaking my ass, allowing some dude who crawled out of his mothers basement to grind up against me. That whole scene is tired. Movies are cool, but I fall asleep when I watch them. Running around with and after my kids takes up most of my precious time.

Dave, if you feel like staying single, more power to you - there's nothing wrong with that. But you shouldnt X out dating altogether...have SOME fun. Even if it is only four days a month.

Peace.

clnmike said...

Your a busy dude who needs a busy woman on the same schedule.

BorednTalkative said...

I understand where you are coming from, but I wouldn't say rule out dating altogether. It won't be easy, but if you meet the right person it will all be worth it.

StarzGazR said...

I dont believe you should rule out daiting!!!
It may start out as seeing them few times a month, and if you explain the situation and she understands.. then it might work.

overtime she will be important enough to be brought into your time with you child, therefore allowing your time to now be shared by the two important people in your life!!!

And i agree-- babymoms won't be home wanting to be single for ever!

The Dreamy One said...

be quiet Dave, you just havent found the right women yet. when she does come along your going to be trying to find all the time in the world to see her.

Ms. Behaving said...

Dreamy took the words right outta my mouth!!!

You let it be the right chick [you'll see]!!! LOL

Brothers Blog said...

NOTHING wrong with stayin single fam. Lord knows I'm setting the record over here. LoL