Usually I would do a weekend wrap up but i think today I'ma talk about being a dad. Specifically being a dad to a lil girl with a baby momma since that's all I have experience with.
My baby occasionally tells her mom that I beat her or hit her in the face. The truth is I rarely ever spank her. I might raise my voice and MAYBE once a month I spank her leg or butt. I've never hit her face because that shyt is just wrong. Now my daughter is 4 so I take everything she says with grain of salt. I mean this is the same lil girl who swears she sees Clifford the Big Red Dog everyday at school. Her mom takes everything she says as truth.
I think she tells these stories to get a reaction out of her mom. She uses it as a way to get on her moms good side since she knows her mom is just waiting to toss me under the bus. Every couple weeks her mom calls me to explains that the baby said i did such and such and she doesn't want me spanking her because it will make our daughter think it's ok for a man to hit her. She tells me how I should discipline our daughter and says that she will make me understand this in anyway she has too.
Now while I understand her point, I don't think a father spanking his daughter will open the door to an abusive relationship. I can't help but be offended that she believes I would hit my daughter in the face. I take that as a attack on my character. I mean how could she really think I was that type of dude? It's not like I EVER put my hands on her when we were together, and she upset me more than my baby ever could. Actually she has never seen me put hands on anybody, male or female. She doesn't even ASK me if I did it. She just assumes I did and responds. So I find myself in a place where my love for my baby is questioned. How can you prove your love for a child? especially to someone who doesn't sees your interactions with the child.
Just another twist in the complex baby daddy- baby momma relationship.
*I just realized the title of this blog might not have anything to do with the story. And this is post #200, I'm rolling.. lol