02 March 2009

What I miss

Let me start by saying, I like my girl. She's great and for the most part I can't complain. I haven't cheated on her or even thought about it. I've been good. I've ignored the temptation to go out with other girls, didn't answer a couple of 12am calls and walked past girls I would normally flirt with. So please resist the urge to call me an asshole after you read this.

That said I do miss the game. The flirting, the dating. The over analyzing of everything. I really just enjoy meeting women. I even kinda miss the rejection. I'm a professional dater, I don't even get nervous anymore. It's what I do... lol some people knit, I date. I like the game. That game that people curse. That game that women always play but refuse to admit. That game so many people can't wait to stop playing. I miss it.

Even when I see dudes trying to holla at girls and I know they are getting shut down. It's funny. Even when I got shutdown I found it funny. Not in a "well fukk you b*tch!" kinda way but in a "thats cool, I had to try" kinda way. I like all the reading of body language, when you notice a girl is nervous around you. It's great. That first date awkwardness, when your deciding where this whole thing is going. I just like in interaction. aahh good times.. lol

So game here's to you, if nobody else loves you... I do, till the next time we meet *cheers*

18 comments:

Ms. Lovely said...

Congrats on that girlfriend thing lol.. I wish I had that attitude about dating. This game is sucking right now for me. Maybe I need some new players..yea that's it...new players

contagiouslyCRANKY said...

Im glad you have pushed pause on the dating game and are being true to your relationship. The game definitely isnt going anywhere

The True Urban Queen aka Sharon said...

The dating game sucks.
It is a neccesary evil best to be avoid if possible.

Concentrate on the relationship.

Ms. Liryc said...

To be quite honest you really aren't missing much. The game is still the same and the players are either corny as all hell or they are straight dumb!! Be glad you're in a relationship.. you got out just in time

MP said...

I've never been a big dater, mostly because I don't like people but based on few encounters I can understand how one could enjoy the game.

buttahflychronicles said...

I'm not gonna call you an asshole. I just wanna know why you had to bring knitting into this. Wassup with that?

RunningMom said...

Dating. Sigh. Glad you like it... I like it too, just haven't done it in a while.

Ieisha said...

*tip-toeing in*

*clearing throat*

Hey Dave, it's me.

*wink*

Been a while, eh? Glad to hear that you're going well with the girlfriend. Good deal.

I can understand the love you have for the dating game. Can be fun. But hey, play the game with your girlfriend. Now THAT'S fun times!

Sha Boogie said...

Wait.

Am I the only one still trying to figure out where this girlfriend came from?? I feel like I read you pretty regularly and I am still lost and confused!! lol

And...I feel you on missing the game because I do too! I miss the innocent flirting, the newnes..all of it! But, I wouldn't trade it in for my boo ;)

jolie fatale said...

do you also like cutting yourself with sharp objects? cause dating sucks! Its painful...

and i'm with sha boogie.. where did this magical girlfriend come from?

Super Dave Van Buren said...

@Ms Lovely: Yeah new players are important, you need new blood.

@Ms liryc: I miss the corniness.. lol

@Hustla - I knew that knitting comment would get you... lol

@Ieisha - Where you been? damn law school ruining out relationship!

@Sha Boogie - I kinda sorta mentioned her a couple times.

@Jolie - dating is not painful, you just dating the wrong people. the GF came from pixie land where all magical stuff comes from.. lol

Just Jasmine said...

You know i get where you're coming from. Sometimes I've felt the i just wanna know if i still got it sydrome. I never planned on doing anything beyond the flirting.

Kay said...

I can say I agree with what you feel. It's been a while since I've been on a date. I miss the flirting, nervous feeling, don't know it it's ok to let yourself go...

I'm not even in a relationship anymore. It's been a whole year that a man even got to me in the slightest bit. I'm not an open and close book. I make it hard.

Kay said...

I can say I agree with what you feel. It's been a while since I've been on a date. I miss the flirting, nervous feeling, don't know it it's ok to let yourself go...

I'm not even in a relationship anymore. It's been a whole year that a man even got to me in the slightest bit. I'm not an open and close book. I make it hard.

dopelikelouboutins said...

t's what I do... lol some people knit, I date. <---- LOL I don't know why that simple yet profound statement made me smile but it did. I HEART your attitude! Some guys just approach a female all wrong or say the dumbest things and then get mad when they are unsuccessful and resort to the childish name calling etc. It's nice to hear that you don't take it to heart and charge it to the game :-)

Caspar608 said...

Love is a many splendored thing homeboy.
You'll miss the other stuff too.
Sort of like when a wealthy man misses the hungry years...he looks back and appreciates the struggle, but would never, ever, ever, ever, ever want to go back...not since he found his pot of gold : )

Peace,
Cas

Kay C, The Quiet Storm said...

Any relationship must be cultured, nourished and allowed to grow. The beginning of a relationship is almost like a drug. Sometimes we miss it because we get complacent with what we have.

You can bring elements of that into your relationship, you just have to put in the work to do it.

kayellejaye said...

It's only gonna get worse once the weather breaks...

Should I start the countdown now? ;o)