25 March 2009

Women I Meet

Before I start this let me touch on my past relationship real quick. It didn't end because of the chick in my meeting or the chick with the 5 series or any other random girl I've met. We were just different people and it wouldn't work long term. I recognized it I'm not the kind of dude who likes to waste my or other folks time. That said I wish it did end before I had that meeting because I sure would have emailed that girl...lol It's too late now. Which brings me to....

I remember I explained to someone a while back that I usually meet 2 types of women. The ones that I'm really attracted to and the ones I have great conversations with.

The girls I'm attracted to are usually well attractive, we get along on a general. Talk about regular stuff, go out and share some laughs. Even if they don't get all my jokes. These are usually the dinner and movie dates. We never talk about anything deep or meaningful. We often talk tv, which is hard for me because they watch ALOT of reality tv and I watch none... lol. I meet them in my travels, they see the jeans and tee's expect me to be some hood dude. Then they realize I'm not and that I like the travel channel more then TVone. Then I'm "different" and they like that about me. Overall they are cool, just not the most interesting people. I get bored hanging out them pretty quickly.

Then there's the girls I have great conversations with. They rock, we talk alot about all kinds of things, they're smart but don't rub it in your face. They get my jokes. Their the kinda girls you sit at the bar and talk to for hours. They have no problem hitting up a museum or just walking around. They are what's called EBP (Educated Black People). They do real interesting stuff. Have stories for days, get ecxited when I mention I'm watching a documentary, Can hold a convo with everyone and generally are what you would want in a wife. Only problem is I'm only mildly attracted to them. Something about them physically just doesn't do it for me. I can never explain it.

And then theres the beautiful, smart bitter women.. but that's another blog.

11 comments:

jolie fatale said...

lol@"And then theres the beautiful, smart bitter women.. but that's another blog"

hmmm well i think there is alway a happy medium out there and that if you found her you'd prolly be the married baby daddy diaries..

so I guess she's out there you just havent found her yet. but i get what you are saying. i've dated some foine men with no substance.. all shits and giggles but I'd probably be the breadwinner or they had little to no ambition or they didnt know what a mimosa was.. (true story) .. and then the guy who i totally get I'm not so attracted to BUT you know what... I've dropped my shallowness and if you are beautiful on the inside I'll prolly date you and fall in love.. but thats the difference with women we let a lot more slide..

i rambled.. sorry..

Just Jasmine said...

Awwww
I;m glad you're honest on this one. I loved the and there's the......
Loved it.
Trying to figure where i fit in but oh well...

you'll find that gem that's all those in one or your mild attraction will grow when you realize that girl is THE one
you've got time. Even clint eastwood is still procreating

Kayos said...

Okay...

So what I'm gettin is that you aren't getting the woman you're extremely attracted to to mesh with the woman with real intelligence? Have I got that right?

Well it comes down to what you want... Do you want to be married? Do you want a long term relationship? I respect the fact that you aren't just leading these women on and that's very commendable. I respect you more for not continuing in something you know in the end isn't gonna make you happy. However, here's something you are gonna have to wrap your head around...you aren't going to find the perfect girl. You have to find the perfect girl for you. It all comes to what you want and how you make it work for you.

Good post.

Creative1k said...

Awesome post!!! I'd have to state that I would probably fit somewhere in between each description. Another thing I found interesting and felt it's good to see a male who refuses to waste his time and the female's as well if he finds himself losing interest. My thoughts are your better half will appear when you least expect it. Until then just parlay (slang for chilling in Houston).

buttahflychronicles said...

If I met a man whom I got along great with. I wouldn't mind if he tried to give me some fashion advice. Most times though, I just can't finance all that stuff so I look pretty basic, hint hint.

Tell her she deserves a day of pampering and shopping and then show her what you mean by paying for it all and escorting her for the day. You can even go as far as suggesting a hair style or fingernail polish style. If you can't afford to do that, then you gone have to look past those material attributes cause she probably can't afford it either. Be grateful you got the wife-able woman and work on all that stuff later.

ninamm said...

So, those are the types of women you MEET -- which are the types you actually end up dating? Seems to be a normal, dichotomous delineation though.

couturesista said...

Ok, so are you doing anything to solve this problem? Just asking,*smirking*

Ms. Liryc said...

You remind me of so many of the guys that I have as male friends. They always go after the chicks with the banging bodies or the chicks that the know they are just in talks with because they just want to hit. While when I was interested in them it didn't work cause I was homegirl material. Girl who they can watch game with, talk sports, and cars and what not, but I digress.

The only way you'll get out of this continuous circle is if you decide to stray from your ordinary and choose someone extraordinary. I think that, though there is a mild attraction you should try and pursue it because you may never know what may happen, and that, that mild attraction may develop into something bigger. Give it a shot. You might end up loving what you Kind of liked!

Good luck oh and remember that homegirl you have, she might be WIFE material, but you didn't notice!

Ieisha said...

I have no advice from you.

I had this convo with you.

Told you to work on that relocation package cuz I'm the BEST of both worlds!!! Lol.

It'll happen. Maybe. Possibly. Well, the odds are working against you but anything is possible. Probable? Another ball of wax, lol.

I'ma leave you alone now....maybe.

Caspar608 said...

you are like Morris the Cat and that kid that wouldnt eat the cereal...Mikey...

you need to stop being so finicky and give things some time to develop. I am not rushing you into liking anyone either.

Have fun with folks. The boring ones may put it on you in ways you never thought IMAGINABLE. LOL. You might be boring some of them chicks too; they may be "boring" because they are busy thinking about ripping your clothes off and playing ride the mechanical bull with you. Yee-haw and all that. LOL.

Have fun, mang. Dont overanalyze things. I am sure you can tell the real nutballs from the good old fashioned crazy folk who make you laugh.

contagiouslyCRANKY said...

*blank stare* Im trying to figure out if I am offended by that last statement.