In my last post I mentioned how I'm uncomfortable with women serving me. Then few women asked me about it so I figured I'd expand a little.
Despite being the baby boy my mom never babied me, for as long as I can remember I fixed my own plate and took care of my self. When I was sick she bought me meds and left me alone, She cared for me but wasn't my caretaker. I remember once I fell off my skateboard (I was a skater before it was hip lol) and busted my head open, I ran home with blood rushing down my face. My mom sat me in the lay-Z-boy and but some ice on my forehead. Never even considered taking me to the ER... lol I think it was her way of toughing me up since Daddy was gone.
Fast forward to adulthood.... Girls would offer to care for me when I was sick and I'd just reply "I'll be ok" mean while I'm throwing up all kinds of insides and shivering under 8 blankets, lol. I've been stuck in bed for weeks and still wouldn't ask for help. I'd manage to get things done myself or I just wouldn't have it. I always felt bad asking for help. Call it pride if you want but it's just what I'm used to. Even when someone offers to cook it makes me uncomfortable, I feel like I should help or contribute something. The whole idea of sitting and watching TV while someone cooks me dinner is just weird. I'd much rather us cook together. At the same time I'll cook dinner for someone else in a minute and not expect them to contribute anything. Yeah that's backwards and I'm ok with it.
plus we all know that dude who confuses his girlfriend/wife for his maid. She cooks for him, cleans up after him and he doesn't seem to even that she doesn't have to do any of that. He just never seems grateful. Them dudes always bothered me and I never want to be like them.
I'm the kind of guy where if you ASK I'll say no, but if you just DO not only would I not complain I'd be forever grateful.