Last night I was on the phone with my friend for over a hour. She was asking my advice on her now broken relationship. Now If you know me you would know that I HATE sitting on the phone. I'll text or IM in a minute. Since i've known her over 10 years so I gave her a phone pass... lol. Never mind that we already discussed it over drinks a couple weeks ago, nevermind this is like week 3 or 4 after the breakup. I have a 2 week cap on being heartbroke, after that let your A.D.D kick in and move on. It was time for tough love. Anyway it dawned on me that she had no idea how to get over that bamma. So here is my full proof guide to getting over your ex. These are all things that I advised her too do and I have done myself. It's proven effective!
1 - The most full proof method to get over someone is to replace them. Replace them with someone new or your friends. This is the where the whole "rebound" term comes from. The idea is you will be too busy with this new person that you will forget about your ex. In the end it doesn't matter who it is just as long as it's not Jose Cuervo or Jack Daniels keeping you company.
2 - Stop cyberstalking. No really why do you want a reminder about how you failed? You don't need to remove them from your online life just make them less visible. Blocking someone is just petty, unless of course they slept with your brother or sister. Its just dumb to be checking up on them via social networking sites. Give them some space, So if they are always on facebook don't sign in for a month or so. Don't worry nobody will miss you and you will not miss anything. If they are on twitter unfollow they ass. You IM them? Make them invisible. Whatever you have to do to not be reminded of them on a daily basis do it. Your Ex is going to do whatever they want whether your looking or not. Your just hurting yourself by being obsessed with their moves. Get offline and get back to real life. Which brings me too...
3 - Remember your old life. Before you were with your new ex you had fun. You did stuff, try and remember what that was and do it again. Life is not over and you will meet someone else, trust me. Life moves on, Stop wondering when they will call because odds are they wont. I'm willing to bet that at least 4 people were waiting for you to be single again. Only your going to miss them because your too focused on waiting for your ex. So yeah get back to your life, you were a great person that's why someone wanted you, even if they don't anymore there is someone else who does.
4 Remember that everyone fails. Jordan didn't hit everyshot, Allen Iverson couldn't crack the starting line up on the Grizzlies, hell even the Lakers lost to the Celtics! Point is everything is not going to be a success. Don't get down over it. Learn your lesson and move on. Everyone has been there, you are not alone and it happens to the best of us. Just because you lost one doesn't mean you are a loser.
5. Last but not least... Don't be mad. If you have some anger about your ex just let it go. Treat your exes like old jobs, Never speak bad on them. It's bad karma and honestly nobody wins. You come off as bitter. Nobody wants to hear you bad mouth your ex. Master some key phrases.. "we're just different people" "we're not compatible" "We grew apart" stuff like that. it may be a complete lie but at least you won't come off as a bitter person. They place no blame.
Stay thirsty my friends... lol