I don't think I ever really really touched on my baby momma and our story. I know I teased a few times on twitter about airing her out but never did. Honestly it was just my temper trying to get the best of me. But today I'm in a different mind set so I'll try and touch on it without showing my dislike of her.
We got together in June of 03, I met her at old part time job. I worked in a computer lab at this community college. Till this day I'm not really sure what I saw in her. My lil cousin was attracted to her and I started talking to her just based off that. Kinda just to prove to him I could get her. She didn't have the biggest ass, wasn't a freak, hell to quote chris rock she was a betamax. Logically I should have passed, she's 4 years older then me, had been a student full-time student for a couple years had a 8 year old son, no car, no cell phone. Really on a normal day I would have just smiled and waved.
I was on top of the world, I had just bought my house earlier that year, was working 2 jobs just because I wanted to. Had stacks on deck! my serial dating game was on point. Basically life was as good as it gets for a 23y/o.
We started dating and after a few months she was staying over my house on a nightly basis. We did more screwing then anything. I learned how sex can hide problems that you would normally discover if you were talking.
Fast forward to Nov 03, it was my b-day party and I was having a dinner at some Italian restaurant. My whole family was there and future BM had bought me a gift. I forgot said gift in the trunk, I didn't think this was a big deal since we were leaving together. Plus it's not like everyone had brought me gifts. No big unwrapping was going to happen. Future BM was heated about it though. She took it as a sign of disrespect. Like I could care less about her gift. This was a sign of things to come, So on the ride home we didn't speak much. Did I mention it was my birthday? yeah I was pissed too. So me being me I called the whole thing off. I was going back to my single comfort zone.
Then on Dec 7, 2003 (yes I remember the exact day) future BM pulled me aside at work and handed me a positive pregnancy test. Great, just my luck right? so we end up back together.
side note and maybe TMI... No I wasn't wearing a condom I was using the pull out method and the 1 time her ass doesn't get off me she gets preggers. Keep a nigga baby game on point. anyway....
So while she was preggers I try to be the best BF/future dad I can be. I give her a cell phone and bought a new car so she could drive my old one. My reasoning was she had dr's appts to get to and nobody should be driving around without a phone. Wait.. before all that she asks if she should get a abortion. I say I'll support whatever decision you make and it's your body... blah blah blah. Truth is I kinda wanted her to get one, I never wanted a baby momma I wanted a wife. I had no intention of marrying her and I knew it. That said I don't know what kind of asshole I would have become be if my baby had not entered my life and forced me to be a better man.
So now she's running around in my car talking on my phone but it's cool. I'm supporting my unborn baby. We have a couple arguments, normal stuff. things are looking good. I'm hoping to get thru this and work things out like adults.
Baby is born in July, her parents refuse to the hospital and visit. Actually their exact words to me were "well not everyone gets what they want" that's the moment I knew they were shady ass people. How you tell your daughter that? My mom comes to the hospital a lil before birth and BM refuses to let her see my first born. Let me say that again. This chick refused to let MY mom see MY baby girl. She didn't want my mom to be the first person to visit. She wanted her son to be the first. What kind of BS is that? You have no idea how heartbroke I was turning my mom away. I had no choice, when it comes to newborns the mom have all the say. On top of that since her parents refused to come visit I had to drive 30 miles one way to pick up her son so he could see his new sister. So I had to leave my new baby to pick someone else's kid up. Yeah it was a extremely bittersweet day.
We break up a few months after the baby is born. She asks for child support, I ask her how much she wants and give it to her. Mind you at this point I'm still paying for her phone and she still has my car. I'm thinking she HAS to see how good she has it. No baby daddy drama from me I just want to see my baby. I could care less who she sees or where she goes. Time after time we still have issues. She just lacks common sense and I just can't seem to believe that anybody is this slow. I end up canceling the cell phone, thinking that she might smarten up. Nope, same shyt. Tell her she can HAVE the car, just register it in her name. NOPE she don't want to pay insurance. All my friends just tell me to get custody and be done with it. I don't want to take a daughter from her mom, meanwhile I'm getting dicked over.
Lather, Rinse repeat. we've been like that for the last 5 years. Me trying to be the nice guy and at the same time getting punked. When my baby gets older she will know I ate years of shyt to try and keep the peace with her mom. Sad part all she understands is dysfunction. 6 years later and she is in pretty much the same position she was at when I met her.