Here's the thing about me, I have lots of female friends. Probably too many, I just seem to make friends all the time. They come and go. I don't have alot of friends that have known me for years and years. I have 1 friend from high school and thats because she refuses to NOT be my friend. She calls me and fuses that I never call her. We agree to see each other at the kids b-day parties lol. She understands that I come and go. She knows I'm here if she needs me even if she doesn't get daily updates from me. Besides that I'm not going to call unless I want something. It's just how I am.
So back to the subject, though out the years I've made many friends. Most are and were women, I like hanging out with women. Say what you want but women are usually more fun to be around. I love shooting the shyt with my boys but I can only hear about wives and kids so much. My female friends are usually single and have crazy single girl stories. It's entertaining, I mean I've never been on a date with a dude and I get a kick out of what some dudes try and pull off. Girls like hearing my stories about women confusing me, it's a give and take/win win situation. Plus I can talk just as much shyt to them. Talking sports with women is fun, esp is they actually have a idea about the game. Long story short, I like women and they like me. Just because we went to the movies or out to dinner don't mean I'm sleeping with her, we just like hanging out. Having platonic friends is completely possible, I know 1st hand.
Lets address the friends you have slept with. I'm sure we all have 1 or 2 people we have slept with and are still friends with. Some people are just better in that friend zone. Some of ya'll have best friends that are ex's. Hell I have family who are better friends after the divorce then they ever were married. Platonic friendships post-relationship are possible. Sometimes they are even better because there is no "what if" questions.
Having female friends causes a problem when dating. It's a known fact women don't trust other women. So if a girl likes you she will assume all the other women you talk to like you too. Especally if they are a girl you have slept with. The girl your with has to both have confidence in herself and trust in you. If you say ya'll just hanging she has to believe you. She should also feel like you'd be silly to leave her for any of them other girls. It's a special balance. Of course as a dude you also have to approach it like you have nothing to hide. If your running into the other room to talk on the phone or storing names as nicknames in your cell then you give your girl reason to suspect.
In the past I usually get around this issue by just ignoring my female friends when I have a girl. I talk to them via IM or text but we never hang out. They complain about it but I explain how it just looks bad. No girl wants her man out with a bunch of other women. They were ok with it since I never had a girl long anyway... lol Honestly this was MY mistake, I should have just explained that these are my friends and continued to hang out with them. I had nothing to hide, yet I acted like I did.
Oh yeah this also led another one of my friends to say "You have attachment issues, you have problems making connections with people. So your friends are interchangeable, Honestly if you could talk to nobody but LMS and your family you would be fine" It was funny till I realized it might be true. That's another blog for another day though.