I have these 2 cousins, they are brothers seaprated by a year. Were all about the same age, Even though you would think they are close they are VERY different people. This was reveled to me again this weekend when I was hanging out with them. As I was riding in the car with "H" we were talking women and relationships and I mentioned how I want to get married. After his "WHAT?, TO WHO?, DAMN!" questions he just said thats good and I hope it works out for you. Mind you he went thru a HORRIBLE divorced with his ex-wife. Still he can be objective, offer some advice and wish me luck.
Fast foward to drinks at the bar. We were at Jaspers in Largo, MD. This is the kind of place that would be really nice if it were in a different part of town. The space is is nice but the crowd is hood as hell. After a couple "This place should have a AIDS scanner at the door" and "This is exactly why I need to get married" jokes my cousin C aks "Who getting married?" then our convo went something like this.
Me: I'd like too
C: Man don't do it!!!
Me: *lol* just because your marrige sucks doesn't mean it don't work
C: True, but there are no happily married people
Me: Dude most my friends are happily married, even after like 5 years
C: Yeah but your a Van Buren!
C: Aint no Van Buren, happily married. That shyt not for us son
Me: Damn why you wanna throw that in there? I'ma just have to buck that trend.
C: Aight man well you know I'ma support you reguardless
Me: Thanks man
The convo continued but you get the idea. C is married with 3 kids and honestly I think he misses the single life. To him marriage is a bad idea. H is divorced and knows what works for him doesn't nessarily work for everyone else. 2 brothers with 2 different outlooks on marriage and life really. It was a reminder how you're not completly a product of your upbringing.
There was a fourth person in our group who congratulated me on just having a marriage THOUGHT. He was like "thats big to even think about it" wth kind of shyt is that? I would say I'm scared for the youth but dude is older then me lol