I was chatting with my friend about this relationship article she read and how every one seems to have "rules" about how to find a partner. While these rules are good to read they don't really apply to everyone, your much better off just doing what makes you happy and not changing or conforming in hopes that it will help you find true love. What worked for your friend isn't likely to work for you.
This "everything don't work for everybody" theory also applies to parenting. I get people giving me suggestions on how to handle and raise LMS all the time, mostly from women and occasionally from women with no kids. While I'm always open to suggestions and ideas I'm well aware that what worked for you and your child might not work for us. Kids are their own people and just like everyone else in the world they react to things in their own way. Part of parenting is learning what the best way to reach your child is and doing that. There is a quote that best describes it
"Before I got married I had six theories about bringing up children; now I have six children and no theories.
John Wilmot, Earl of Rochester"
Its not a perfect science and the more you buy into certian "theories" or "rules" for raising kids the more likely you are to miss out on the fun of it all. I'm still learning what works best for us and I'm sure it will be a continous process. As she grows and changes I will have to change how I interact and teach her.
Much like with realtionships there is no magic set of rules that will work for everyone. What your parents did might not work for you because you're not your parents and your kid is not you. The general idea of what they did might work but you have to apply it your own way.
Anyway while looking for that quote from John wilmot I came across this quote that I liked:
The guys who fear becoming fathers don't understand that
fathering is not something perfect men do, but something
that perfects the man. The end product of child raising is
not the child but the parent.
~ Frank Pittman