03 August 2011

Is 1 enough?

I often get asked the question "do you want more kids?" and its an interesting question because depending on when I'm asked my answer changes. Some days I swear I want a son, You know someone to carry on my name and what not. Plus I know my mom would love a grandson and it doesn't look like my sister is having anymore kids.

Other days I think I'm good. I could see myself with another baby (plus wife) and I could also see myself being 42 with a kid in college and the rest of my life in front of me. I'll be free to do whatever and move wherever. I mean LMS is growing and do I really want to start over? The older she gets the harder it will be for me. I think my cut off is when shes 10. If I don't have another kid by the time she is 10 I'll just forget about it. I mean she will be more then halfway out the door!

That said I think it will have more to do with who I marry, If I get married and my wife wanted to have kids I would do it. I wouldn't deny someone the joy of parenthood because I've already been thru it. Kids are awesome and I'd love to raise one without the drama. Now if she says she wants like 6 kids we might have a problem.
Lets be clear though, there is no way want another baby momma. After all I've been thru with my current one I would be crazy to go that route again. So if I never get married you can be sure I won't have anymore kids. Now with my luck I'll get married have a kid then get divorced lol

The good part of this is I don't have to use "do you want kids" as a factor when dating. On the imaginary list of things you look for in a mate Ion't have a line item for it. Either way I'm good, which is nice because I often meet women whos answer changes 3x a month depending on hormones and their physical proximity to babies.

So in short, I have no idea if LMS will have a brother or sister by me. Maybe her mom will get knocked up again.


Monique said...

That is a tough question to answer. I'm also unsure whether or not I want more, but I know I definitely plan to be married the next time I'm expecting. So it's up in the air, only God knows what life will bring!


BK said...

LOL I said I wasn't going to have anymore.. then I got married and my husband didn't have any so I did. Even though my youngest was 13 at the time :) it's best to keep the option open.. because you never know WHAT may change your mind :)

Young woman on a journey said...

you know my opinion, but i'll state it :-). definitely no point in more baby mama drama. but if you do get married, i think it is best that LMS's stable home includes a sibling. haha...i think most only children feel that way. i've yet to have children, but i still want like 4 or 5 to make up for growing up without sibling love and support.

Tiffany said...

Keep an open mind about it. When I was born my siblings were all out of high school.

Peace, Love and Chocolate,

sayitlikethis said...

Has LMS asked for a sibling? Luckily, Buddha has not asked. I know for a FACT that I don't want another child. "One & Done" is my motto.

I don't know what I'd do if Mister said he wanted another child. Luckily, we're in the same boat on the kid topic. No more.

Birth Announcement UK said...

Its always a difficult question to answer, especially for new parents, as most don't know what to expect from being a parent

Monique said...

I want more. At least two more at that. I'm probably weird for wanting more children but I definitely want a ring on my finger before it happens next time.

SincerelyGo said...

Okay first lets hope LMS's mother doesn't do that Lol. I have this same question although I have no kids at the moment. I'm approaching 30 and is no where near the alter. I'm barely getting steady dates here lately. But I do want a kid/kids. But at the way things are looking I can't see me wanting to push out no more than two. I really only want one but like you it depends on what my mate wants as far as one or two. Good luck!


Eccentric_Girl said...

LOL at getting divorced. Nice job staying optimistic, Dave! smh

krissy said...

Only if I'm married would I want more kids. And that's just one more. And I also have a cut off age for myself. I'm 30. If I'm not married and have no had more kids by the time I'm 35 I'm not having anymore.